HOW TO WRITE YOUR WEDDING VOWS
Wedding vows are an important part of any wedding ceremony. They express your feelings for each other and can set the tone for the rest of your marriage. But writing your vows can take some time and it is important that you are early to craft perfect vows. Having listened to several vows over the years, I have written some tips on how you can write your own.
Start by thinking about what makes you unique as a couple.
You might think that you need to write your own wedding vows, but there are plenty of examples out there that will inspire you. Think about the things that make you different from everyone else. What sets you apart from others? If you’re both introverts, talk about how you complement each other. If one of you has a big family, talk about how you support them. Whatever it is, use it to start your wedding vows.
Create a list of words or phrases that describe your relationship.
You should also think about what makes your relationship unique. What does your partner bring to the table that no one else can? Think about the things that make your relationship special and write those down. Ask yourself the following questions to help you with your vows:
Why did you decide to get married?
What did you think when you first saw him/her?
When did you realize you were in love?
What do you have now that you didn’t have before you met?
How has she/he changed your view of the world?
What do you miss when you’re apart from each other?
What hard times have you gone through together?
What makes your relationship tick?
Find inspiration from other couples who have been married before.
There are so many ways to approach writing your wedding vows. One thing that works well is to find inspiration from other couples who were married before. They probably had similar experiences and challenges as you, so take note of what worked for them. Another option is to ask friends and relatives for advice. Or, you can even go online and search for “wedding vows” and see what people have written. You can also look at favourite movies, poets and authors to give you inspiration.
Leave out anything embarassing and take a break.
I think it is also really important to avoid anything that is embarrassing or really personal. You want your guests to be able to follow along with what you are saying and I suggest limiting inside jokes so that everyone from your best friend to your neighbour understand.
Once you have drafted your vows, have a friend read over and take a break. Sometimes the best writing comes to you when you are not trying to rush or think to hard.
